Traveling with kids on an airplane doesn’t have to be a drama. Sure, airports, security, all that, can make for a stress inducing start to a trip, but accept that you’ll get through it and you’ll be fine. Here are some tips to make it easier to get to the finish line–usually a beach somewhere or Grandma’s house.

Consider packing one carry on just for snacks. Since each child can have one carry on as well as you, pick one piece of luggage to store snacks, wipes, plastic forks and spoons, toys.

Good Snacks for the Plane

Fruit if allowed (apples, oranges, pears, peaches, bananas), granola bars, Kind bars, cheese (I brought a big chunk of cheddar and a plastic knife once and that got us through the first half of a trip to Hawaii.), Oatmeal cookies. Now is not the time to make a fuss about their eating habits. It’s all about getting through the day and keeping them from driving you and everyone else crazy on the plane. No I would not recommend this on a normal day, but there is nothing normal about trying to get little kids to manage through hours of sitting still on a plane, in a seat with very little room. So give yourself a break, and pack the Skittles.

Good but Messy Snacks

These of course are kid favorites, but take into account the amount of hours your flight is. Bring these by all means, but resign yourself to the fact that you will be sitting in mounting piles of crumbs once these babies are unleashed. If you can look the flight attendant in the eye after you peel out of the seat, go ahead and pack them. Besides, it’s nothing they haven’t seen before. So pack the crackers, Cheeze Its, cookies, raisins, fruit roll ups, dried fruit, seaweed snacks, graham crackers,  cheerios, pretzels, and nuts and make your peace with it.

Toys, Toys, Toys, Did We Mention Toys?

Let there be toys! However, try to bring ones without lots of small parts. Also bring books, cards, stuffed animals (only take a few-they take up space and are easily left behind), simple crafts that can be done on a tray table and don’t have a zillion pieces, or require scissors, better yet, unless you see something that works, skip the crafts as there’s likely no room. If you are in first class, then maybe you can bring the crafts-but keep them simple. Coloring books but prepare to be picking up crayons from weird places for the majority of the trip. I would go as far as tying strings on the crayons and only bringing a few. I’m not kidding.

A Note About Favorite Stuffed Animals

And a reminder about stuffed animals. If you can get away with it, I highly advise you bring the B side team of stuffed animals. If you bring the favorites and they get left behind it will ruin your trip. Think about all the places between home and your destination that that one tiny stuffed animal can end up lost forever. So either bring a doppleganger, or bring the B side of creatures that will not send your child into a fit of dispair if one of them disappears.

Electronics on A Plane

God bless electronics. DS and other handheld games, Ipad, mini DVD players, laptops. Remember to charge everything up ahead of time and download the movies you want to see. You might be able to get wifi on the plane but it usually doesn’t allow movie streaming. Invest in a juicebox type charger that will allow you to add additional charges to your gear. If the upgrade to first class is doable, consider it on long flights as many of the seats now come with charging stations. Check first.

Don’t make the rookie mistake of forgetting the headphones and bring a spare.

Bring the Car Seat on The Plane

If your child is very small, you’ll need to bring a car seat on the plane if you don’t want them sitting in your lap. Many car seats convert to airplane travel friendly. It’s not counted as luggage. Strollers can be checked at the gate and that’s handy as it will be waiting for you on the other side.

Safety Harnesses, Don’t Judge

I had one on my daughter at customs coming back from Turks and Caicos to JFK and it was a God-send. Long lines and little kids don’t mix. I could let her wander around and she couldn’t go very far, but I had the comfort of knowing she could move around a little without disappearing in a crowd–where I’d have to lose my place in line to go get her. And they come in cute designs like teddy bear backpacks, etc.

When we were in Turks and Caicos, my daughter was like a fish on a line, The minute I felt a tug I knew to check on what was going on a few feet away. Did I get the stink-eye from the Uber parents and the people who don’t have kids but think they know everything? Sure. But she’s alive and sitting on her bed, reading in her room today. God forbid, I’m not wondering where she is.

I say get over the leash thing if you can. People may frown upon it but who cares. It’s your child’s safety. No need to apologize. And if you don’t use it anywhere else, consider taking one if you have a potentially long customs line waiting for you. After awhile I found the only place I ever really used a leash/harness was on long lines. But it depends on how rambunctious your child is.

Temporary Tattoos and Skin Writable Markers

Safety temporary tattoos are awesome. Put them on, write your phone number on the tattoo with the special pen and you’ve got one less worry. You don’t really need the tattoos but they are cute and somehow make you look less neurotic. I had a handful sent to me back when I was an editor for Disney and they were fantastic. Little buttlerflies and stuff with a space for “If Found, call XXX.” I would not write your child’s name on them though in case someone uses it to their advantage. A phone number can be called, traced etc. A name can be used to subvert a kids’ normal sense of discomfort around a creepy stranger. I’ve also seen markers in toy stores for this purpose. Just make sure it’s not going to hurt your child and avoid the sharpies if you can. Otherwise, there is always the Sharpies.

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